Lately I’ve noticed myself resting a lot.
Taking it easy.
Connecting to friends. Giving and receiving hugs.
Letting go of the idea that in order to get somewhere, I have to work hard first.
A notion that seems quite epidemic in our society.
Very ironic, because what is it that we want to reach?
A state of completion? The end goal? Success?
And how will we feel when we reach that goal?
Rested and at peace perhaps?
Being a good boy
Fuck it, I’m taking the shortcut.
I don’t feel lazy though, I’m just deciding to throw years of programming to the wind.
Years of being a good boy, working hard, and especially: believing that life ain’t easy.
Because: “Watch out, feeling good is dangerous”.
Oh, and: “You have to do it all by yourself”.
And: “You’ll never be good enough”.
Being a person
I don’t know about you, but most people I meet believe these things at some level.
Working so hard for a little bit of love, and some scraps of inner peace.
Until at some point you just feel burned up, wrung out, exhausted.
Tired of trying to be a somebody. A person in this world.
Wearing your mask.
Do you recognize this?
How would it be to feel safe enough to drop the charade?
To “just” be yourself, as you are, without hiding how you really are?
To be real?
What we already are
As you know, that’s what I’m all about.
Because being real equals being natural.
Being natural is being without effort, without trying so hard.
I believe most of our efforts are in order to feel loved, and seen, and safe.
And the idea to work for years and years towards some goal on the horizon
that might never actually happen, feels sad.
“I just need to finish this, and then I’ll give myself permission
to be happy and at peace…”
“Right now I’m just not good enough yet. This and this and this needs to change,
Wow…can you feel it?
So yes, how about a moment’s rest?
How about realizing that what we are is not what we do?
And what we are, is already the case. We can’t work towards it.
We can only allow ourselves to realize it.
I once asked a friend of mine:”How do you know you’re enlightened?”,
and he answered:”That’s the same as asking a duck to prove it’s a duck”.
It’ll just answer by saying “Quack”.
We are all, already “enlightened”:
We just don’t realize it yet.
So back to taking some rest.
I’m not so much talking about lying down, sleeping, doing nothing,
though that can be part of it.
What I mean with resting, is allowing yourself to stop doing things
that feel like work,
and allow your actions to arise from inspiration, enthusiasm and a sense of:
”This is what I want”.
Now before you start saying that’s impossible because of all your obligations,
just check in with yourself: Does it resonate?
How would it be to live a life in which you follow your inspiration,
all of the time?
How mind-blowing would that be?
And all your obligations: who put them there in the first place?
Were you sleeping, and then suddenly: ”WTF?”
I believe that wherever you are right now,
it’s possible to create more space for your real self.
To live in a way that feels good, and to use your feelings
as your compass.
Yes, it’s actually allowed to do things because they feel good,
and for that reason alone.
Can you give yourself permission for that?
Watch out: Tiger!
I know for me that’s been -and still is- quite a mind shift.
We’re so programmed to put in lots of effort before we
allow ourselves to be happy.
“Something might go wrong if I don’t work hard!”
Yet, you are still here, after all these years.
You still exist. Despite of all your fuck-ups and failings.
You are here, and you are ok.
Without any imminent threat to your life in this moment.
And if not, what the fuck are you doing reading this?
Get up and run!!!
I always enjoy a good conversation.
I like knowing what you think and feel.
So I will thank you in advance for your comments 🙂