There are ways to experience orgasm that last much longer,
and are way more fulfilling than 5-second ejaculations.
You can feel much more charged, attractive and sexually fulfilled
than you previously thought possible.
And you will actually feel the ripple effect in all other areas of your life.
First of all, let’s talk about the definition of orgasm.
Normally we only associate this word with the sexual act.
But that’s a very narrow definition:
ALL of life can be an orgasmic experience.
Let’s look at what orgasm is in it’s essence:
It’s a deep release, a relief, a surrender, an opening, a great relaxation.
The pleasure experienced when opening deeply,
is a broader definition of orgasm I’d like to use here.
When seen from this perspective, everything can be orgasmic.
Crying, looking into someones eyes, receiving a massage, giving a massage,
laughing, dancing, even dying can be orgasmic!
The deeper your ability to surrender, the more you’ll experience this.
How to be more orgasmic
So what follows then, is that the way to increase this potential is
to release resistance.
And the way to dampen it, is to increase resistance,
stress and tension.
Yes, it’s as simple as it sounds: The more you resist your life experience,
the crappier you feel.
The more you stay present with your life experience,
and open through it, the more orgasmic you become as a being.
Man or woman.
For every choice you make, and every thought you think, you can ask yourself:
Does this feel light or heavy? Does it give me relief or stress, to see it this way?
Does this make me feel more open, or more closed down?
It’s your inner guidance letting you know
if you’re in integrity with your true values.
You want to nourish yourself with foods, thoughts, activities,
with relationships, that raise your vibration. That uplift you.
And make you feel more open and alive.
You are what you eat
You can imagine that if you stuff yourself with junk food every single day,
you’ll feel vastly different from when you eat healthy, organic foods.
If you watch the news and follow all of the terrible things that are happening in the world today,
you’ll feel vastly different from when you choose to spend your time in the silence of nature.
If your relationships are filled with reactionary behavior, negativity and power struggles,
you’ll feel very different from when they’re filled with listening,
authenticity and compassion.
How aware are your choices in what you feed yourself with?
Do you trust your inner voice, or do you believe someone else’s story?
Can you be true to yourself and live life on your own terms?
You are how you eat
You can eat very healthy foods every day and hate it.
You can also eat sorta kinda ok food, and totally love it.
What you bring into your system is important, but how you bring it
is even more important.
Is it good for you uniquely?
What is being orgasmic really?
Let’s go back to orgasm and sexuality.
The degree to which you are sexually orgasmic
-highly sexual, turned on, filled with pleasure, open and flowing, charged and ready-
fully depends on how open you are.
The degree to which you can stay hard, last longer,
give and receive amazing pleasure (without the need to ejaculate),
all depends on how open and “relaxed” you are.
The more uninhibited (or un-tense) you feel,
the more love flows through your heart,
the greater your orgasmic potential will be.
Orgasm is the pleasure of openness and surrender to your experience.
This is why laughing, crying, dancing, eating, etc. can be orgasmic experiences.
And your daily life choices will either support you in being open and in a state of flow,
or they will “support” you in closing down and feeling tense.
These daily choices will reflect in how you relate to others,
how you feel about yourself, and how you have sex.
Examples from your own life
Can you think of which behaviors and
environmental factors in your own life cause you stress?
And which help you to feel more open and connected?
Bringing awareness into these areas and making conscious choices will
serve you more on the path to becoming multi-orgasmic
than any technique ever will.
Don’t get me wrong: technique is incredibly valuable, but without the right foundation
it’s like building a house on quicksand: Nice stones, nothing to rest upon.
Thanks for reading!
Let me know if this has been valuable for you,
and feel free to share your take on orgasm, and life, and all this stuff.
Looking forward to the conversation!