When I started writing this blog, I felt afraid.
I realize it was because I wanted to prove myself to you.
I wanted to prove that I know how it all works,
that I’ve got it down.
The Sexual Power Man, who knows the ins and outs.
So that you will trust me, and take my workshops, courses and sessions.
But it’s tiring to try being that guy,
and to project a certain image into the world.
What I want above all else, is to make a real connection here.
Walk the talk
I speak about being authentic,
and sometimes it turns around and looks me in the face.
Because I don’t wanna get away with being a fake.
I’ve seen too many teachers on my path who say one thing,
and live something completely different.
And I don’t want to be like that. I want to be true to my word.
So I’ll take the risk of you losing trust in me,
because I’m not a teacher who knows and lives everything perfectly.
I fuck up, just like you. Maybe even more, I don’t know.
I also need support, and sometimes I forget to ask for it.
And yes, I also look for fulfillment outside of myself.
And when I’m in a crap mood, I curse the shitty weather.
Tantra, sex and relationships
At the same time, I do believe in the value I share
about sexuality and relationships.
Sure, I still have my question marks about this whole game.
But I’ve also learned valuable and deep practices
that enable me to have beautiful connections.
And I want to share their importance:
To listen with all your senses,
Artful touch to open your lover,
Being fully present with all kinds of feelings and sensations.
Learning to surrender,
Being naked and vulnerable,
Expressing full power.
The depth of connection I often experience with brothers, friends and lovers
is truly amazing, and there’s no end to that depth as far as I can see.
Even though in our program we work with several powerful techniques,
in the end it’s not about technique at all. It’s about a way of being.
And I LOVE that.
Sexual techniques will train your focus, and open your system.
They will also open you more deeply to who you really are.
So that you can experience more of your nature,
as an orgasmic and ecstatic being.
I believe true sexual mastery is equivalent to Life mastery:
It’s great to learn the steps, play the scales, and expand your sexual vocabulary.
But in the end it’s like dancing:
You let go of the technique and surrender to the music.
Your dance becomes spontaneous.
Present. Here and now.
Tripping over my feet
So here I am.
I have experienced all these things. I’ve had years of practice.
I still trip over my own feet sometimes.
And I’m actually becoming ok with that.
I hope that with todays blog, I can convey to you
the most important practice I have learned:
Being real. Unguarding your heart. Revealing yourself.
To me, this is the essential teaching.
Without this, technique is just a hollow shell.
It won’t change anything fundamentally.
The Power of being Real
Whenever I think I have to keep up appearances, it creates tension.
But the moment I drop my mask and allow myself to be seen as I am, I relax.
The people around me relax.
I open up, and my whole energy system opens up.
I believe that the tantric path, or the path of Sexual Power if you will,
is one of ultimately dropping all your masks.
Yes, it feels scary to be that vulnerable!
But with practice it becomes -sort of- easier.
And extremely liberating.
Can you imagine what it would feel like to be totally at ease with yourself?
In any situation, with anyone?
By releasing this tension that’s built up throughout your life,
you regain enormous amounts of psychic energy.
And this allows you to be much more open, sensitive, and alive.
It empowers you to see and live the possibilities that existence offers.
That, my brother, is what I call Sexual Power.
It touches everything.
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I want to know what it touches in you.
And I want to know what’s important in your life.
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Thanks for reading, speak soon!