It’s a paradoxical thing: in this time of worldwide connectedness,
there’s so much less real connection.
The question is: Are we connecting the dots here?
We are surrounded by more “new, better, faster and shinier” than ever,
and still find ourselves looking for the next experience.
We are so virtually connected, yet disconnected on a personal, bodily, visceral level.
It’s a rarity nowadays, to be in a space full of people and have someone
not checking their smartphone.
For many people it’s normal to wake up with their smartphone, spend the day
behind a screen, and finish the day with their small screen.
What we barely realize is by living this highly wired life, we bring our brains in a
near-permanent state of high-beta brainwaves: a state of stress.
It feels like time is moving faster, so you experience having less time.
You get more easily distracted, making it harder to focus on what matters,
and even know what really matters.
It makes you function on a more mental level, being less and less embodied.
The connection to your body and feelings becomes superficial.
In order to feel sensation and connection, you need stronger stimuli.
My Digital Detox
Now I’m a bodyworker. I work and play with the body a lot.
I have quite a good connection to my body and my feelings.
But I have to admit that I was quite amazed at the effects I experienced
after only a week of digital detoxing:
√Much more time
√Calmer, more focused mood
√More enjoyment of food, music and simple things
√More time for everything I do, and more attentiveness to it
√Stronger sense of connectedness to the moment
I no longer get the sense like I have to be somewhere else where it is happening.
Bye bye FOMO!
Sometimes less is more.
We all want to feel alive, free, connected and happy.
And the only way we can truly experience this,
is by being fully in the here and now.
Modern digital life stimulates the notion that this fulfillment is to be found somewhere else.
It’s a bit like being lured with a carrot on a stick (in this case: a new gadget on a selfie-stick).
I call it There and Then.
One of the most direct ways to drop into the present moment,
is deep connected breathing.
Just pause for a second and take ten deep breaths.
And feel the difference…
This direct experience is totally magical and completely simple.
It is by being very close to this moment that you realize:
everything I need is already here.
Ok, that sounds nice, but in order for it to actually make sense,
we need to slow down…
By taking more time off from our screens, we calm our agitated brains.
They start to produce more alpha brainwaves,
associated with relaxation and meditation.
Being too digitally “connected” makes us crave for more, yet not find it.
Because it’s not in more, it’s in deeper.
To cure our addiction to more, better, faster, we need deeper connection.
This “slowing down” then naturally creates the kind of real intimacy
that you probably thought of first when you read the title of this article.
Thanks for reading, speak soon!